I hate networkers. Now this may seem pretty stupid and simplistic. Stupid because there is no way you can truly avoid them. Simplistic because the term ‘networker’ itself is subject to myriad interpretations.
Networking in a nutshell ,according to me, is the building of relationships (or more correctly, contacts) leading to a desirable situation of ‘You-scratch-my-back-and-I-scratch-yours’.
Now I would like to put my first comment into perspective. I say I hate networkers. The reason I say this is because I feel that I find such people to be extremely self-centred, ruthless, opportunistic, extremely manipulative and inherently untrustworthy. I find them untrustworthy simply because it is very difficult to guage the true motives of such people. Personally, it is very difficult for me to like a person I cant trust and who I know will put his/her self-interest before everything else.
The worst variety I feel are the people who just want to use you for some current/future wants but pretend to be your friends who genuinely care about you. Now it is still acceptable for most of us to maintain a purely business-like relationship certain people that we might meet (cant be best friends with each person in this world can we?) but to be fooled into a friendly relationship and and purely serving as fodder for consumption at a later date is a bit too much to digest.
There is an interesting thing that I noticed. Networking as a phenomenon seems to increase exponentially as we move towards a career in the corporate world. Think about it. Most of us would have been dismissive of people we dint like in school or even during graduation but something holds us back as soon as we enter the rat race.
Now, lets look at the other side of the coin. Nobody can be classified as a distasteful person simply due to him/her having good networking skills. In fact, I have met all types.
1. Friends who are good networkers
2. Networkers who pretend to be good friends
3. Pure networkers.
People in the first category should not really be in doubt. Infact, they may actually turn out to be quite helpful!
With people of the third variety, atleast you don’t risk any heartburn and can very well maintain a cordial relationship with them.
In fact, it is desirable to have good socialising and networking skills. It really leads to a situation wherein you have a network of people who can pull you out of any sticky situation you might find yourself in. The trick is to never find oneself caught in/caught with the second category type.
The idea is to be able to discern who is worth what.
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Your blog introduction professes to focus on a lot of introspection. So, nice topic - must say you must ahve come up with the content of after a lot of introspection!!! :-)
ReplyDeleteNice classification - you should have given a "one-word" for each one of them. Am a net-shirker - the category who doesnt believe in networking for the sake of building contacts!!!
But, i guess you are right we all indulge in it for the sake of benefits, protocol or psychophancy. That's the corporate world!!!
Anyway, great that u started blogging... and let's have some specific stuff on HR - am sure we want to hear our own HR "guru"'s fundae!! Enjoyyyy
First of all, congrats on your blogging attempt and start. I hope this thing continues for a while!
ReplyDeleteNow an interesting question: Classify your friends (read me!) :D
So I'm supposed to say "Hey, nice blog!" and/or "Hmm.. interesting post, Rajesh could you elaborate on that?" in banal MBA Grad lingo and nudge your ego a little so I can catch some quid-pro-quo from you in the future. But Phani has his code, you see. I've always been a 'know'-nonsense kind of a person.
ReplyDeleteAbout networking though, given the present scene (or the absence of one) where it's a headache finding a job, it makes sense to impress people online (easier than in person) ina jiffy and ask for a possible referral or a recommendation from him. Professional networking sites really open new doors provided one uses them well. So net-working is basically a handy tool for the not-working.
@adi..Congrats... you get the honour of being the first post-master on my blog.
ReplyDeleteI like the word net-shirker... very innovative and funny! Since I know your love and admiration for the HR function, will try to satisfy your desires as much as possible :)
@sunil..i intend my blog to help people in introspection... not prescription :)
@phani..i totally agree on the professional networking part of it... got nothing against it...its the real life leeches that suck my patience!
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ReplyDeleteHmmm... Classify yourself!
ReplyDeleteNow, we all know the reason u posted this blog! 2 reasons...
1.. U were the only PG-non-blogger in our group!
2.. Since u in HR, u know people keep in touch for ONE Reason!!! :-)
PS: HR, Zindabaad... Rajesh Zindabaad! :-)
Nice Rajesh! So finally, the Human Resource in you is proving resourceful! :) I could never think of classifying Networkers (or for that matter, people).
ReplyDeleteNot that I have come across any of those leeches sucking my blood. You are at a better profession for that one. :)
As concerning my networking abilities, I suck at it. But yeah, as Phani says, online networking is a good substitute for those like me.
More of these guru-gyaan... :)
This is good....why did you stop?
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